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Nothin’ for nothin’…
But I’ve caught a couple hostile comment attacks lately. Probably goes with the territory, but I guess I’ve been lucky. Haven’t been many to date.
But #AutisticElder that I am, I remember being bullied since 3. I’ll be 70 next year.
The words of someone of obviously hostile intent have meant little to me… oh, for the last few decades. As much as I once would have been destroyed.
Here’s a couple of observations about shitposters on Facebook, Twitter, all social media… Including a few autists…
The ones who have a genuine beef will discuss it when I ask them to.
The ones with fragile egos don’t handle ambiguity well. Real black/white, purist folks. They fade into the woodwork when they can’t back you into a corner to defend yourself.
The pros? The trolls who get paid?
Nothing stops them. Except for bad stats on their replies. It’s a living I guess…
There was a time I blasted right back. A long period in my life. I got good at it. I hurt people…
And I’m ashamed to admit it took me a LONG time to recognize this.
Still hard at work to control my naturally acidic tongue.
Here’s the deal…
If we talk about how I wronged you, or offended you, or harmed you, or disappointed you…
It’s hard for me. But I can take it. And frequently acknowledge mistakes. And change.
If you are simply hostile… name-calling, condescending, attacking personal characteristics… I have little time and less inclination to interact.
Just block me, damn me, report me, whatev… And be done with it.
Sometimes, someone in pain will start right away with hostility. I get it. And try to hang in for a comment or two. If I can, I own it and apologize.
I try my damndest not to trade hurt for hurt. Sometimes I fuck up.
But I’m doing my best to stumble into grace. Still hoping to get better. With age.
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